I am in the process of creating and defining a career for myself that feels like the perfect fit for who I am. “Sounds great, how do you do that exactly?” You might be wondering.
I wish I knew! This is me, out here winging it!
Let me start with what I know I want:
- The main focus of my work will be connecting people to each other and themselves in a way that makes them feel more confident, comfortable, safe, and connected.
- I will hold space for perfection, peace, and joy. I will hold space for all of this even when life looks like everything but.
- I will use my intuition, training, common sense, and compassion to help you dust off your own inner compass. I will trust that inside of you are all the answers you need to be who you dream of being.
- I want this career to grow because what I offer is what you want. It will grow because you will tell the people you love about the simple, easy and painless changes you have made that make you feel so different.
What I know I don’t want:
- Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, etc. where I blast every email I can get my hands on with a glut of promises about life transforming classes, books, formulas which cannot possibly be anything other than a hook into their fears designed to draw them in.
- Hard work. To be clear, I want to work, a lot. If it is hard work like, “This is a real struggle, but it will be worth it.” No Thanks.
This week I am beginning a women’s group called Journey Within. It is a four week class on Thursday nights from 7 to 8:30. We will be doing all kinds of talking, writing, drawing, dreaming and connecting with each other. I am so looking forward to it. If you live in the Boston area you can join us in Reading (pg. 4). Love to see you!!
If you don’t live in the Boston area but think all of this sounds like something you might be interested in just shoot me an email. I am currently taking new clients.
I noticed something interesting about how people create at our Messy and Grateful class where we created Gratitude Boxes. At the beginning of class we mingled around and picked out our supplies. It became evident fairly quickly that everyone had a little bit different process. Some people were more hesitant and asked questions before they began. Some people picked out a few supplies and quietly and methodically began constructing their box. Others were up and down rummaging through the supplies and creating on the fly. As I looked around the room it made perfect sense.
The way we create matches our personality, and is a mirror for how we approach life.
“As we do one, so we do all.”
It got me thinking about what my style of creating life looks like. I am definitely a jump all the way in before you have a chance to over think it. Assume it will all be smooth sailing, and if it isn’t then discover you have no idea what you are actually doing.
This is where I always begin to beat myself up and lose confidence. Why am I not more organized like so and so. Why didn’t I get more support before I started. This would never happen if I was more…
But now I have a new perspective. I see this is just my process. I can actually see a fun and beautiful pattern to all of my fumbling and creating and success and failure. This is me and it’s how I live and learn and create. When I look at it from this angle I am pretty darn proud of myself.
How do you do what you do?
I recently discovered an amazing book by Danielle LaPorte called The Fire Starter Sessions. This book is all about getting real with your MoJo and not futzing around. It’s about not beating yourself up for what you did or didn’t do and letting go of the unrealistic goals you’re not all that invested in anyway. It is a free pass out of Guilt City with a side of hilarious passion promotion.
Here is what she calls The Eight Second Rule
“My personal theory is that you get ample intuitive information about someone in the first, say, eight seconds of meeting them. If your antennae are honed, if you’ve made a practice of following your instincts, then you know in the first handshake; you know when someone shows up two minutes early or two minutes late; you know from the sound of their voice on the other end of the phone; you know from the tone of their email. Somewhere in your being, you just know. Like or dislike. Open or closed. Curious or careful. Eight seconds.
Pay close attention. There is a Buddhist saying:
As in the beginning,
So in the middle,
So in the end.”
When you think about it, you already knew that. But it is great to get, in writing, permission to trust that first gut instinct. Go ahead and put your guard up. You don’t have to give them a chance for the sake of being fair or nice or rational. You can trust your instincts. Well, maybe take them for a test drive first. Think of some situations that went badly. Did you have a sense from the start or were you completely surprised. Were there signs you missed. You might need to spend some time teaching yourself how to speak the language of your intuition.
What you might be reading as giddy excitement, may actually be your instincts shouting “RUN!!”
When I was a kid my parents told me, “You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.” I’m pretty sure their point was that I could pretty much pick my poison. I could decide to not do what I was told and deal with whatever repercussions that choice brought or I could just suck it up and do what I was told and avoid the punishment.
As I have started trying to use what I want to do as a guide, I have started thinking about that sentence again. “You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.” If that’s true, that changes the game entirely doesn’t it. I have been reading Martha Beck’s book Steering By Starlight and guess what she advocates! Shut up and listen for your truth. Do what you want. If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. True success is only achievable if you are living your true path. Martha tells story after story about people who are living unbelievable lives because they put aside their fear of failure and followed their “North Star”.
I guess I have been doing my own navigating by starlight. Starting my seminars has taught me so much about myself and what I really want in my life. Martha says as this happens you will find synchronicity becomes commonplace. This is what happened as I researched for the next seminar. We will meet on Saturday, June 2nd and the topic will be intuitive painting. We all loved the vision boards so much and wanted to stay creative. I found these videos on You Tube of a woman named Connie Hozvicka doing what she called fearless painting. First of all, I just LOVE her artwork. I checked out the bio on her website and she is running on pure intuition. She went from being miserable painting how she thought she had to, to having her career take off trusting in the painting that she loved. She now runs retreats and has a sold out teacher training starting this Fall. The thing is she is so alive and bursting with genuine happiness, excitement and passion. It’s enough to make you wonder how much happier you might be if you let go of what you “have to do”.