I recently discovered an amazing book by Danielle LaPorte called The Fire Starter Sessions. This book is all about getting real with your MoJo and not futzing around. It’s about not beating yourself up for what you did or didn’t do and letting go of the unrealistic goals you’re not all that invested in anyway. It is a free pass out of Guilt City with a side of hilarious passion promotion.
Here is what she calls The Eight Second Rule
“My personal theory is that you get ample intuitive information about someone in the first, say, eight seconds of meeting them. If your antennae are honed, if you’ve made a practice of following your instincts, then you know in the first handshake; you know when someone shows up two minutes early or two minutes late; you know from the sound of their voice on the other end of the phone; you know from the tone of their email. Somewhere in your being, you just know. Like or dislike. Open or closed. Curious or careful. Eight seconds.
Pay close attention. There is a Buddhist saying:
As in the beginning,
So in the middle,
So in the end.”
When you think about it, you already knew that. But it is great to get, in writing, permission to trust that first gut instinct. Go ahead and put your guard up. You don’t have to give them a chance for the sake of being fair or nice or rational. You can trust your instincts. Well, maybe take them for a test drive first. Think of some situations that went badly. Did you have a sense from the start or were you completely surprised. Were there signs you missed. You might need to spend some time teaching yourself how to speak the language of your intuition.
What you might be reading as giddy excitement, may actually be your instincts shouting “RUN!!”
“Every thought you have
either supports the positive energy of the world
or pollutes it.
Be mindful of your thoughts.”
– Gabrielle Bernstein, May Cause Miracles
I am reaching the end of Gabrielle Bernstein’s book May Cause Miracles. It is 6 weeks of daily meditations, intentions and subtle shifts and I love it! Among the many reasons I love this book, a big one is that I have experienced concretely my belief that change does not need to be arduous and painful. Oh, it can be, I know that! But the beauty of this book is that Gabrielle guides you through daily intentions which some days don’t feel like much of anything. Just the act of reading it, believing in the process, and setting the intention in your mind creates a ripple through your life.
I have become a much more diligent watcher of my thoughts without the need to scold myself for bad behavior. If this sounds monotonous, I have greatly undersold the experience. It is beyond freeing to notice when I am believing fearful thoughts and to release them.
“I could see peace instead of this.”
– Affirmation Day 26
And my favorite quote comes from the Course In Miracles which is truly the backbone of the book,
“Today we celebrate the happy ending to your long dream of disaster. The light has come. I have forgiven the world.”
-Lesson 75 from the Course workbook
I had to stop reading to blink through my tears of laughter. I think I need to put that on a sign.
Acknowledge Awesomeness, that is my alphabetical inspiration for the month of April. Acknowledge Awesomeness is about recognizing the times big and small when you get a wink from the Universe.
For example, this morning I took my daughter to the pediatrician and was noticing the drawings and family photos hanging in the reception area. In one of the pictures two young boys were sitting with their new baby brother laying across their laps. It was a beautiful shot, but what really caught my eye was the way the middle child was holding his arm out to his side with his elbow bent and his hand palm up on top of his head. If I didn’t know better I would have just assumed the picture was just snapped at the wrong moment. That maybe the kids were fidgeting and it wasn’t possible to get one “perfect” shot. But I do know better. You see it just so happens that for about two years when my son was small the only way he would have his picture taken was with his hand upside down on top of his head. For a few months it had to be both hands. We called that The Double!
You might be wondering what is so awesome in this story. For me, this was a reminder that there is nothing about any of us that is so unusual, different, or strange that sets us apart. We are not ever alone, even in our quirkiest and strangest places there are others who can join us there. What a comforting reminder of the common thread that runs through all of us.
This month I will strive to Acknowledge Awesomeness in all the strange and wonderful places I find it.
I couldn’t find a digital photo of my son from this stage. Just imagine this guy pre- tattoo, eyeliner, and beard with his right hand more opened. My son was two and a half when he started, so a little smaller too.